Wednesday, January 2, 2008
Does it seem that finding the man or woman of your dreams is getting more difficult as the years go by? Perhaps it's because, as you get older, you are less open to alternative ideas and are limiting your options for meeting new people. But the truth is that finding a mate does not have to be so hard.
One of the most challenging parts of LDS dating is that the religious orientation of the people you meet on a daily basis is not stuck on their foreheads. And if you live outside Utah then chances are the majority of people you meet with not be in your LDS dating catchment area. Although it may feel like your options are limited, there are steps you can take to meet more LDS singles.
You could go to ward activities or otherwise socialize with LDS Singles. Not only will it be more comfortable and you'll have more fun that way, but also the obvious LDS question mark will be removed. It is easier to approach someone when you already know you are at least in the right general neighborhood. On the same note, if you want to find someone that meets your other preferences – for example, if you are Hispanic, African American, Indian – then you may want to focus your activities on ethnic LDS groups.
Another way to meet LDS singles is by utilizing a LDS dating service. Although dating services were once only for mainstream couples, now there are dating services for every type of relationship, orientation, and ethnicity. This is a great way to meet people that are within certain criteria you set forth. That may sound bad, but everyone has guidelines they are looking to fill; a LDS dating service allows you to ask questions up front and filter out people that are not what you are looking for. This saves time which means you can spend more time dating and less time looking for a suitable date.
Depending on your location, there may really be a shortage of potential mates! If this is the case, you may want to try an online LDS dating service to meet people in other areas. You can also make a point to join LDS organizations in your area to meet singles that share your interests.
If you are just entering the LDS dating world, you may not really know where to go or what to do. There are several websites that can help you. You can also find someone to help guide you through the process. Find a friend or elder that you can speak to candidly about dating, love, and romance. There is nothing like chatting with someone that has been in your shoes before. You will find that most other LDS are very accepting of you and will help you when they can.
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Do You Know Yourself? Test
We all claim to know many things. We analyze our friends, our colleagues and other people. We try to find out how others act and behave. We act like a know all about others. How about ourselves? Do we know ourselves?
We react to many stimuli - both from outside and our mind. We go into different moods and act differently at different times. We can not predict our own behavior many times. We know something about our likes and dislikes about food, clothing, home and such thins. But what about our emotions? What of our mind? Do we know? Can we predict our own reaction at a given situation? It may be different at different times, depending on our own mood. We are not machines and therefore highly unpredictable.
How about knowing about our emotions and our mind better? How about analyzing our self? How about finding out more about ourselves? That would surely help us in improving our life. It may not give us more money, but certainly more peace and a sense of control on ourselves.
These fun tests are devised to make you think about yourself. Try these tests to find out about yourself in a fun way. Are you adventurous? , Are you wasting your life? Are you boring? and
Do you have the passion in you?
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First Kiss - Dealing with the Anxiety
Getting close to landing your first kiss? Are you overwhelmed with stress? If the answer is yes, then you must read this article. It will slash your anxiety in half.
1) Eliminate Expectations
Don't expect to set the world on fire with your first kiss. Instead, decide that you just want to give a normal 10 second kiss. Shooting for a realistic goal will lower your stress considerably.
2) Remember that you'll get a 2nd, 3rd, 4th, 5th + chance. Once that initial kiss is made, you guys will do it a hundred more times. You'll be so relieved and thrilled to be kissing, that you'll want to do it all the time. So, if you screw up a little on your first kiss, don't sweat it. You'll get another chance to do it better...probably within the hour.
3) It's probably their first kiss, too
Don't expect to be judged on your performance. If they haven't kissed anyone before, either, you can be damn sure that they're also stressing about it. In fact, after you guys pull apart from your first kiss, it's likely they'll be so busy wondering "Am I doing this right", that they won't stop to consider whether you did it right.
4) They want you to kiss them
Go ahead and assume that the person you're dating wants to kiss you. Obviously, they're physically attracted to you. Otherwise, they wouldn't be dating you. It's only natural for them to want you in a more physical way. Of course, they want to kiss you.
5) Think positive thoughts
Psyche yourself up. Think how happy you'll be once you land that first kiss. Think of all the hours of making out that will be going on after you get the first kiss over with. Think how great it's going to feel. Don't delay this ecstasy any longer.
6) Billions of people kiss every day
A kiss is a normal everyday thing for several billion people. Your mom and dad, neighbors, and other people all over the world kiss all the time, so what's the big deal? If they can do it, why can't you? If it's no big deal to dinosaurs like your parents and grandparents, why should you have a problem with it?
7) Visualize it
Try to picture how it's going to go down. When you go to bed at night, close your eyes and try to imagine how you're going to make your approach, how you're going to hold them, etc. The more you visualize this moment, the more comfortable and stress free you'll be when the time comes to do it for real.
8) Practice it in your room...seriously
Physically go through the motions that you visualized in the previous step. Practice walking up to your sweetie, practice what you're going to say (and in what tone of voice), and practice leaning in. You can even practice kissing your hand. Believe it or not, but these techniques actually work. Going through the motions will prepare you for the real thing.
Todd Peterson is the editor of the popular teen community HighWorld.com Feel free to contact Todd at editor@highworld.com if you have any questions about teen life. Or, simply visit his popular teen community at HighWorld.com for additional resources.
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